Friday, July 31, 2009

We labor to make a house a home, then every time we're expecting visitors, we rush to turn it back into a house. ~Robert Brault

Why is it that when friends and family come over we feel the need to clean up our homes more than normal? Would it be that uncomfortable for others to see how you really live? Knowing that things aren't always perfectly placed, that maybe you don't always wash the dished in the sink right after using them and the coffee table in the living room usually has fingerprints all over it. Would they not be friends with you anymore?

Tonight my husband invited another couple that we are friends with over for a movie and some good conversation. We used to get together at least once a month but now we haven't seen them since May. They are recently engaged and I am looking forward to talking wedding talk.

When hubby came in and asked me if it was okay last night, I took a look around at my home that is disheveled from moving and not to mention that the actual housework has taken a back seat to moving as well. I looked at him mortified. Of course I would host but I needed the reassurance that they knew that we are moving and our home is a mess.


Why? We will still have a good time regardless of the way my home looks. They aren't going to pass judgment or think I am a bad housewife or mother because the place is unkempt a week before our move. They know I have three little boys yet when they come over after they are in bed, there are no signs that they live here other than the pictures on the walls.


How much of ourselves do we really hide from others? I have never been the neatest of people in my everyday life. I let the dinner dishes sit until morning and I don't always wipe the boys toothpaste from the sink before bed. I hardly worry about the fingerprints on the coffee table because the second I am done dusting I know they are going to put them right back. Not to mention that I am lucky if I run the vacuum once a week because my youngest is petrified of it. And the way I dress? I rarely get out of my sweats and tanks, I never wear makeup when I am home and my hair is rarely blown straight. Normally it is up in a sloppy ponytail.

So why, when I know I have company coming I go into overdrive making sure nothing is out of place? It's as if a rush comes over me and I am racing the clock to make sure that everything is perfect including my appearance before they knock on the door? What if we had surprise visitors? Would I let them in? What would they think? Of course I would invite them in and apologize for the mess. I know they would understand with the knowledge that I have three small boys and a ton of work to do.

So why am I freaking out about tonight?!?
No. I refuse to let this control me. I am going to take my time with my cleaning today. If I don't get everything done, so be it. I will make myself up and make sure the area where we will be hanging out is taken care of and be a good hostess as usual. But, I am not going to hide that I can't be organized during a move. It is impossible for me to do so and I don't need to feel more anxiety than this move has already given me.

5 comments:

Angel said...

SCREW THE CLEANING TAKE IT FROM ME IT IS NOT WORTH IT!

Mandy said...

This coming from the woman who raised me this way. Thanks Mom. =) xoxo Love you!!

Jenn said...

The title says it all and you are SO RIGHT. I cancel so many plans because I don't get around to cleaning. It's dumb and no one cares so we shouldn't either!

nychica007 said...

Sweetie this is so true. I go on on what my daughter calls psycho mode. LOL Clean up everything even if it doesn't need cleaning. and really those who really love us don't care and those that care about the house not being perfect and "criticize" us should not be welcome in our homes. Yet we go crazy. Love the title.

Brenda said...

don't clean...just straight up. it gives the illusion that you are the best Housefrau in the world in half time and you didn't do much at all.

Just spray a little of the new Febreze bathroom cleaner on the toilet and sink, throw a few toys in their baskets, and put the dishes away.

If you spend more than a half hour, it was too much.

Enjoy your friends!