Tuesday, June 2, 2009

My Mother Taught Me

The most important lesson my mother taught me about being a mom

As a child my mother always said, “You will understand when you are a mother.” And she was right... now I know.

My mother taught me the bond that you will never have with anyone else but your child.

I know the movements my children made inside of me when I was pregnant and the difference in each one and how it has produced into their personalities.

I know the feeling of pain from labor but that the feeling of holding your child for the first time outweighs it and makes you instantly forget.

I know the bond that only a mother can feel when she looks into her child’s eyes for the first time.

I know that promise you make to them in those first few minutes of life to protect them, always be there for them and most of all to love them forever.

I know that feeling you get when your child smiles at you for the first time. Or when they roll over, take their first steps and say your name.

I know the overwhelming love you feel when your child gives you a hug or kiss and tells you they love you.

I know this because my mother taught me.

My mother taught me the reasons for her over protectiveness.

I know when my child gets on that bus to school every morning I will worry until the moment he comes home and is in my care again.

I know when my child is sleeping at night why I check on them throughout the night.

I know why I make sure my last words to them every night before bed and every time we need to part is, I Love You.

I know when someone is watching my children that lump you feel in your chest worrying if they are okay.

I know when a child takes their first steps you can’t baby them but you can always be a few steps away from them to catch them if they fall.

I know they will one day tell me they hate me for being over protective and tell me I am the worst mother in the world, and I will smile at them and respond, “When you have children, you will understand.”

I know this because my mother taught me.

My mother taught me the sacrifice that a mother makes for her child.

I know the sacrifices you make to give your child everything they want and need.

I know the sacrifice of not always being home with my children because in order to give my children the best, I need to work.

I know the sacrifice of sleep because your child isn’t feeling well.

I know the sacrifice of your favorite foods because your child doesn’t like them.

I know the sacrifice of new undergarments or clothes because although yours are old you find yourself in the children’s department of the store buying for your children instead.

I know this, because my mother taught me.

My mother taught me to be strong for my children.

I know that I need to teach my children to walk but it’s hard not to hold their hand.

I know I need to teach my children to be independent but that I will always be there when they are in a jam.

I know that I need to let my children find out things for themselves but I could always give them advice.

I know that I can’t stop them from the heartaches they will endure but I can always lend an ear and a shoulder to lean on.

I know that I can’t stop them from growing up but I can help them on the right path.

I know that I can’t stop them from straying from that path but I can help them find it again.

I know that the lessons I teach my children will be harder on me then they are on them.

I know this because my mother taught me.

My mother also taught me the most valuable lesson of all…

Since becoming a mother, my mom has taught me even more lessons. These lessons I haven’t questioned or even thought twice about the advice. Now I listen to her and although some things I may not agree with, I still keep those lessons in the back of my mind knowing one day I too will understand.

The most valuable lesson my mother has taught me since becoming a mother myself, is to enjoy my children because they grow up so fast. She is absolutely right, too. I have stopped and smelled the roses with my boys, spent a whole day cuddling with them on the couch. I have danced like a fool in my living room with them and we have laughed so hard that we cried. I have enjoyed every feeding, every cuddle and every kiss as if it was the first time. I have sat admiring my children when they thought I wasn’t looking and cried at night because I love them so much.

I know the meaning of being a mother, I know how it feels and I know I will teach my children the same... just as my mother taught me.


Lizzi said...

These are all so true. Having my boy Beau has made life so much more fun and free and loose. It has let me be a kid again.

Brandie said...

Very beautifully said! I look forward to learning these things one day when we start a family.

Mandy said...

Thank you both!